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| 11/12/2007 Return to top |
Q038: Assalamu Aleikum, Recently, I was told that only men have the power to make rulings in Islam. I know that it is only men who can be imam's and I completely agree with this. My only issue is that I don't understand what it is that gives a sheikh the right to make rulings. I understand that it is due to the knowledge that he has but what if a woman has the same amount of knowledge or even greater. Why is it that she cannot make the same ruling? It doesn't seem to make any sense to me. I asked these questions to my friend who told me to not ask questions. But I told my friend that in Islam we are supposed to ask questions: we don't believe blindly. And I was told I was lacking faith to ask such questions. So, to sum up, I have two questions; why is it that women cannot give rulings? And secondly, if I ask questions about the deen, does it mean that I am lacking in faith? Jazak Allahu Khairun for your response, |
| 11/12/2007 | A038: Dear Sister Assalam Alaikum I agree with you that you have to ask question even about God himself. Through question we enquire knowledge about what we need to know, therefore you read in the Quran this style of revelation, "They ask you O Mohammad about what they should spend? Tell them whatever of goodness you do, goes to your relatives, your parents, orphans ..." and there are many verses like that. Man is the Imam for men or both genders. But woman should be an Imam for woman only. As for man making rulings that is not true. It is God who rules and Muslims in general regardless of gender are to interpret, explain and execute those rules, no difference between man and woman. There were some occasions in which the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) referred to Aaishah his wife as to learn half of your religion from her, and also he said: "Seeking knowledge is a must on every Muslim male or female". I hope that will answer your question. Thank you very much and God bless you. Yours Imam Farooq |
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Q037: Assalamu Alaikum During the course of around 5 years or so, I have gained and obtained around 400 sterling in interest payments. Now, I do understand that interest cannot be used upon myself personally. If you can be so kind and advise me where this money can be used or who should I give it to. Also please tell me if this money can be spent on things which I would not normally buy with my own hard earned money, for example, on a personolized car registration or building an outside bathroom. Your attention is this matter will be greatly appreciated. Thanking you kindly Wassalaam |
| 11/12/2007 | A037: Dear Questioner Assalam Alaikum That interest money is yours, you may spend it wherever you like. For food or charity or school wheresoever you feel like it. Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
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Q036: Hi. Thank you for your response, but isn't interest money haram ??? And to spend 1 penny or 1 dime is equal to 36 times of doing zina??? Please advise Mr Imam Farooq |
| 11/12/2007 | A036: Dear Brother Assalam Alailum Riba or the forbidden interest is that which is done between individuals to exploit the necessity of the needy, and it is a poor and rich who is using his wealth to make money out of exploitation of the poor people. But the bank interest is a group of investor making money, so the interest you get is some of what your many made after the officers and the banks take their salaries, rents and taxes and all of that and in the end you are getting some of what your money has made. So you are not taking someone's money, therefore it is halal. Allah knows better Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
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Q035: Hello, What form of payment would be acceptable when purchasing Mahr (in form of gold jewelry) for my future bride? Would that be acceptable if I used my credit card to pay for this jewelry? Is using my credit card like using borrowed money? And is it OK to use borrowed money to purchase the Mahr? Thank you |
| 11/12/2007 | A035: Dear Brother Assalam Alaikum Yes, it is OK to use your credit card to do that. Nothing wrong with it. In Shaa Allah. Congratulations! Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
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Q034: Salamallkum Brother I just want to share with some problem I am going through for the last three years that I have not shared with anyone else except you. I was around five years old at the time when I must have said something nasty to someone. I must have heard someone else say it and thought it was fine to say when you angry .One time I was angry I must have said to the person, "God I wish you would die". After 1 year the person died. When I was 14, I remmber what I said and since then it has affected me. Most of the time I am depressed and remember what I said. So brother can someone kill someone else with words? |
| 11/12/2007 | A034: Dear Brother Assalam Alaikum May Allah be with you. We should not wish death or bad things to any one. When we are angry just leave their matter to God. The person you wished death for him and it happened that he dies one year after, he did not die because of that. He died because Allah wanted him to die, and his life was over. As for you, you must learn a lesson from that so you will not feel guilty. What you should do is to repent to God, try to help his family, and to ask Allah's forgiveness, and then put it behind you and get over it and do not think about it. May Allah bless you for being so kind and sensitive. Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
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Q033: Slaamlekum Brother, I really need your help in this problem of mine please, as I feel I don't know what to do. My parents have got me engaged to a cousin but the problem is that I have met a man on the Internet and we are very much in love. We have been talking for a long while and he really wants to marry me. My parents would never agree. I know that parents have more experience in life and know what is usually best for their children, that is why I have tried many times to stop all forms of contact with the man whom I met on the net but I always give in and start talking again. If only it could be easier but its so hard and I really don't know what to do as I know talking to a non-mahram is forbidden. If I were to stop contact .... how should I do it so I don't keep going back. Please help me!!! |
| 11/12/2007 | A033: Dear Sister Assalam Alaikum You need to talk to your parents openly about that issue. If you have a valid reason to retreat from the engagement to your cousin tell them about that. About the man you are chatting with, my advice is to meet him in person with your family, he might be married and want to have fun only, or may be not serious about it. Try to solve this matter wisely, and do what is best and clear for you and your family. May God be with you. Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
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Q032: Assalaamu Aalaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu Dear Imaam Recently my family and I met with an accident and unfortunately my daughter passed away and the Insurance company has awarded me a sum of money as the compensation for the accidental death. I want to know if it was Halal to accept it? I did ask the company to give me proof that it is halal. They did produce me a copy of the document FATWA signed by 4 sheikhs 30 years ago! Can I accept it on this basis, because there are many sheikhs that have rejected this money? I want your opinion as well. Is the company's FATWA is sufficient to accept it? I am writing behalf of my brother whose account I have quoted. |
| 11/12/2007 | A032: Dear Brother Assalam Alaikum I am sorry to hear that, may Allah bless her soul and bless you and your family. The same goes to your brother and his family. Yes brother, if that was a contract between him and the insurance company, you have every right to take it, because you paid your monthly premium for that as a sort of collective social welfare among the group of beneficiaries, whosoever has a bad situation he is entitled then to receive the benefit. It is your very right, nothing wrong with it. My condolences to you and the family. Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
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Q031: Dear Imam, I am doing a project for college about Islam and how to be sensitive to Muslims who may need physical therapy services. I am not very familiar with Islam, and I was wondering if you could tell me about any ways in which physical therapists could be respectful of Muslims who may come to clinics for services. I am aware that modesty preservation is very important, so female therapists should treat female patients and vice versa. Are there any other ways my classmates and I could learn to be more sensitive therapists? Thank you so much for your time! |
| 11/13/2007 | A031: Dear Sister Thank you for your concern. It is permissible for a Muslim male or female to seek therapy for their well being. But some guide lines have to be applied, such as 1-looking only at what is needed 2-The private area has to be covered 3- when working on area, try to avoid any fantasy reaction. It may be helpful to get into a different conversation as to avoid the inner feeling during massaging. 4- It is forbidden to describe some ones body to any one. 5-The most important one is try to have female for working on female and male working on male. These are the main guidelines that I can tell you about right now.If you have any question feel free to call me. Thanks. Imam Farooq |
| 11/11/2007 Return to top |
Q030: Salam Dear Brother, I come from a respectable and well educated family. I have came to the US with the sole intension of working and settling down here. Basically I am not married, and my parents are looking for a beautiful bride for me according to our family social status. Four months ago I did a big sin ( i.e. one day I went to a dance club and I watched nude girls there. I did not have sex with anybody there and I have never had sex with any girl in my life. That is the first time I have seen naked girls in my entire life. I wish to have sex with my wife only, not with any other. I am desperate to have sex with my legal wife. Now adays I am controlling myself after seeing the naked women. Since I did that sin, I am not able to sleep properly from that day onwards. Now adays I am jobless also. My friends they got jobs, but I am not getting a job in America Brother, now adays I am in a very big depression, because I am always thinking why I went to that club. Now my problem is I am not getting any job as well as my parents are still not successful in finding any bride for me. How can I get forgiveness for my sin and get a job as well as to start a new life . Please help me. NOTE :- I AM SORRY TO USE SUCH BAD WORDS ……PLS HELP ME OUT , I AM CRYING WITH THIS ISSUE . JAZAKALLAH. |
| 11/11/2007 | A030: Dear Brother Assalamn Alaikum Brother: Allah is so Merciful and Forgiving. As long as you admitted and feel guilty about your sin, know that Allah accepted your repentance because He said so. What is needed now is to get hold of yourself and to think about doing your best to get a job, and prove to Allah and yourself that you are a strong believer. May Allah guide you to do what is right. Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
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Q029: Sallam Wallakum I recently bought a business where there is mild prostitution. I’m the owner of a massage parlor and have about 6 attendants (ladies) working for me. The ladies don’t perform full service to clients but they get nude and finish the session with a hand release. I treat the ladies with the utmost respect and integrity they deserve and get along great with them. I don’t force them to solicit, work, or demean themselves in any way. I have their full consent. Many of these women work at my place to better themselves and to provide food and shelter for there young children. This is the only means they seek to make money because of lack of education and social skills. Being the person that I am, I try to keep them happy and attempt to better them and encourage and teach them in life as if I’m their mentor. I put lots of money I earn from this profession towards almsgiving (zakat). Is this considered dirty money and shouldn’t be given to the poor, even though the money can possibly save a child’s life? This is my only source of income and I feel its my duty to give to the poor regardless of the source of money. Is this haram? I have been feeling very skeptical and guilty about the moral matter of my profession. How does Islam interpret my actions of profiting from this job? Is it haram in Islam what I’m doing, even though my intentions are harmless and helpful to my surroundings, and I only what to do well with the money I earn?. Please help me as I’m very confused about this matter and need religious guidance. Thanks sallam wallakum |
| 11/12/2007 | A029: Dear Brother Assalam Alaikum Thank you for your question. Yes brother what you are doing is HARAM. Good intention does not justify the doing of haram, and the charity you give and the help you do for children and the needy is haram(forbidden) they might benefit from it but you bear the guilt and the bad consequences of it. My advice is to try to get rid of that business as soon as possible and look for a decent job. With what you are doing right now you are accumulating sins every second in your life. May Allah guide you to do what is right. Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
| 10/09/2007 Return to top |
Q028: Asalm Alaikum, I am a revert to Islam and have a question about having children. I do not have romantic feelings for men, because of bad things that have happened in my past, however I love children and would love to have them. I know it is important for a child to have a father but I was wondering if it is possible for me to have a biological child without getting married or having sexual relations with a man? |
| 10/09/2007 | A028: Dear sister, I understand your love for children, but still you cannot have a child without marriage. It is absolutely forbidden in Islam. But you can adopt a child without giving him or her your name. So you can love, care for, raise and educate the child, but he/she is not like your own child. I wish you the best. Sincerely, Imam Farooq |
| 12/19/2003 Return to top |
Q027: Salaam Alaikum Imam Farooq. I came across something on a web-site that really bothered me. Here is what I read on the site (www.Islamicfinder.com). The evidence from the Holy Quran and Sunnah of the Prophet (p.b.u.h.) is quite clear that Eids are distinctive features for every nation. Allah, the Almighty said: "To every people we have appointed (its own) rites and ceremonies." (al-Hajj/22). And it is clear that Eids are purely religious occasions for Muslims. Allah and His Messenger Muhammad (p.b.u.h.) have warned us against following or imitating non-Muslims in things which are characteristic of their religions or beliefs. This is more emphasized in the case of their Eids or occasions, which always hold some religious or ideological non-Islamic meanings, and on which the Kuffaar (non-Muslims) indulge in many evil practices. Differing from them on such occasions includes the following: 1. Staying completely away from the kuffaar celebrations. This means to avoid places where they perform their holiday practices and to avoid participating with them in such practices (Christmas and New Year parties, Halloween trick-and-treat nonsense, Thanksgiving celebration and dinner, Fourth of July fireworks, First of April lies, birthday parties, anniversaries, etc). 2. Avoiding doing, ourselves, things which pertain to the practices of the kuffaar on such occasions (allowing Christmas trees in our homes or offices, inviting our friends to a Turkey dinner on Thanksgiving day, allowing members of our families to purchase or borrow Halloween attires, holding birthday or anniversary parties for our family members, etc). 3. Avoiding congratulating the kuffaar on their occasions. For, How can we bring ourselves to congratulate or wish people well for their disobedience to Allah? Thus, expressions such as: Happy Thanksgiving, Happy birthday, Happy New Year, etc, are completely out. The only possible happiness is in true Iman! 4. Avoiding celebrating our Eids in a way which is meant to copy the ways of kuffaar (mingling and shaking hands between men and women, improper cover for both genders, etc). 5. Avoiding to initiate certain occasions or Eids in imitation to theirs (the Day of the Earth, the Day of Iowa Muslims, etc.) It seems like everytime I am finally getting used to Islam, and have no doubts, I come across something like this. This mentality really bothers me. I am a convert to Islam, did they consider that when they put that propaganda on the site? What am I supposed to do? Abandon my parents on their favorite day of the year? That's going to be pretty hard, considering the fact that I live with them. It's probably easy for them, they don't have to be around the so called "Kuffar" like I do. I personally think that the Muslims tend to take everything to the extreme. Could it be possible that imitating the Kuffar actually means something important like killing people, praising injustice, praising lewdness, forgetting God, following desires, rejecting the poor, disobeying parents? Does it have to be something small as saying "Happy Thanksgiving"?! A Christian said Merry Christmas to me after the final exam, I said it back to her. What was I supposed to say, "I am sorry, I cannot say Merry Christmas back to you because it is a celebration of the pagan Christians that will burn in the hell fire for eternity!"? I'll get to the point. Everytime I read things like this, I start to doubt my religion. I start to think in my head "Is this really what Islam teaches, am I just practicing some watered down version of Islam?" I do not want to doubt Islam, it gave me light when I had darkness but I just can't submit to everyone else's way of seeing Islam. I like Christians and Jews, I don't want to segregate myself from them. I like to find God in every religious text, not just the Qur'an (Even though the Qur'an is the complete truth). I like to respect people's religions by wishing them a "Happy" holiday. Is this really disobeying Allah? How am I supposed to deal with this clash of menalities between these types of Muslims and myself? Thank you so much for answering these questions. I apologize for this one being so long. May Allah shower blessings upon your soul, and your families. Sincerely, Matthew |
| 12/19/2003 | A027: Dear Matthew Assalam Alikum I am sorry for what you have read on the web of that nonsense. Islam respects all people for what they are as people created by God. More likely if they are believers in God, whatever their ritual might be, we still have to respect them. Being with your Christian parents on the Christmas Day to wish them Merry Christmas, there is nothing wrong with it. On the contrary, it is mandatory for you to be with them even though you do not worship or believe the way they do. You have your religion and they have their own. Do not listen to this kind of misinformation, and I advise you not to waste your time by being on these kinds of sites. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 12/13/2003 Return to top |
Q026: What is the Islamic belief about the end of the world? Christians, of course, believe that Jesus Christ will come again, although they have many different ideas about how this will occur. Basically, I am curious to know what Islam believes will happen at the world's end, what signs there will be to predict it, and so forth. I have no problem with a published answer. Thanks, Zachary Cochran |
| 12/13/2003 | A026: Dear Brother: Muslims believe that the life here is a temporary one. The eternal life is the life to come. Therefore, in order for the life to come to occur, this life must come to an end! When? God only knows. No human knows when, including the Prophets of God. The Quran gives some signs for the end of the World, the most major one is when the sun rises from the West. Other signs, like the coming of Jesus and the spread of corruption, smoke will overcome this world, etc. As Muslims, we strongly believe in the hereafter and the end of this world. Details about that, such as when and how, we refer them to God`s knowledge, because we do not know. Thank you for visiting with us, Sincerely Imam Farooq |
| 12/13/2003 Return to top |
Q025: Dear Imam Assalm-o-Alaikum Please explain Ayah No. 43, Surah RAAD(13). Who is being reffered to as witness beside Allah to prove the truthfullness of the prophethood of Prophet(peace be upon him) who has the knowledge of the book? Your detailed response will be highly appreciated. JAZAK ALLAH |
| 12/13/2003 | A025: Dear Brother Assalam Alaikum It means that Allah and those who have knowledge among the people of the book who have read about the glad tidings for the advent of Mohammad (Peace be upon him) and who have testified for that, and some of them even had become Muslims. The verse means Allah testify for the Prophet and also those fair-minded people among the scholars and clergy of the people of the Book. Allah knows best. Yours, Imam farooq Aboelzahab |
| 12/11/2003 Return to top |
Q024: Assalamu Alaikum, I am not a jewelry guy and I have never worn any jewelry before in my life but since I am recently married I would like to know if the wedding ring I have (a gold one) is harm or not. Ja zakoume allahou khayeraaa |
| 12/11/2003 | A024: Dear Brother Assalam Alikum Gold and natural silk are haram (Prohibited) for men to wear. The Hadith states that those two items are haram for Muslim males. My advice to you is that you get a silver ring instead of gold. God bless you Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 12/07/2003 Return to top |
Q023: Salam alikoum, I want to travel back to my homeland for a month. Reasons for traveling are: To give Da'wa to family and friends, see my family and enjoy my vacation. Do I still need a Mahram with me??? And what is the ruling on that issue, if my Mahrams are not available??? Is it haram to go without a mahram??? Jazakum Allah khayran. Salam alikoum |
| 12/07/2003 | A023: Dear sister Assalam alaikum You do need mahram because you travel with many people who can take good care of you. Mahram is only needed if you travel by yourself in a kind of unsecured environment. But if the safety of the road and people are guaranteed then there is no need for Mahram. Have a safe trip. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 12/01/2003 Return to top |
Q022: Assalam Alaikum Imam, Thank you for you and your staffs generosity at letting us view your Mosque. I have a few questions if you do not mind. I saw the children in school in the first level. It seemed to be the first grades (K-4th). What schooling is done from this point and where? Do you send them to regular high school? How about college? I was so impressed with your prayer service and the reverence I felt and saw. Please let me know more about the Islamic Religion. Thank you for all of your time and patience. Jean R. |
| 12/01/2003 | A022: Dear Jean, Assalam Alaikum (Peace be with you) Thank you for visiting our Center. The kids you saw are our Islamic full-time School kids. We currently have K-6th grade, and hopefully in the future will have it through the 12th grade. You can get more information about Islam if you send me your address so I can mail you some booklets about Islam or visit our web site at www.icgt.org Thank you and God bless you. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 11/15/2003 Return to top |
Q021: Assalamu Alaikum, Thank you for your time. Feel free to print this. Our grown daughter and her husband are not Muslim and they will be visiting us next weekend. They will be staying in a hotel even though I have made them more than welcome to stay with us. However, my son-in-law says he is not comfortable because my husband puts up a curtain between him and my husband's Muslim daughters by a previous marriage. Is this standard Islamic practice? I have many female friends who are not Muslim and my husband does not like to be in the same room with them and when the brothers visit him, he does not want me in the same room with them...not even to finish cooking in the kitchen. I was under the impression that as long as I am covered, it would be okay. Also, does the center offer any classes in Islam? Thank you so much, Assalaamu-Alaikum |
| 11/15/2003 | A021: Dear Sister Assalam Alaikum As long as you are covered, it is OK then to be around men who visit with the family, unless they are not trustworthy, then it is better for you to stay away from them. But as long as you know them and they are the family's friends I believe there is no harm from being around them or doing your work in the kitchen. Your son-in-law is like your husband'son and your daughter is like his daughter, which means no harm from staying with you in the house.Your daughter and his daughter are sisters. Yes, there are classes every Sunday. Just come to the office, we will be happy to help as much as we can. Thank you very much. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 11/10/2003 Return to top |
Q020: Asalaam Alaikum Wrb, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab. Ramadan Mubarak. I am sending you this in regards to the treatment of the Dhimmi in an Islamic State. I have heard some brothers/sisters who say that they are second class citizens. However, I have also heard some brothers/sisters who say that the Muslims take care of them in their land and the taxation (Jizya) imposed on them is not as a punishment for being a non-muslim, but to cover their expenses for their homes, places of worship, etc. I was wondering where the truth lies in these two beliefs. Thank you so much for answering everyone's questions. Wa-Salaam |
| 11/12/2003 | A020: Assalam Alaikum Themmi means one of the people of the Book (Christians and Jews) who are living in the Islamic state where Muslims give Zakat (alms) to the government. Non-Muslims give Jiziah (tax) since they can not give zakat. If they can not afford then they are exempted from it. They are to be treated as honorable citizen just like Muslims. They have freedom of Religion. Their houses of worship are very well maintained and protected, they enjoy more freedom than Christians in what so called Christian country! Thank you and God bless you. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 11/10/2003 Return to top |
Q019: Asalaam Alaikum Wrb, From another site called ask the imam, I saw that it is OK to use and learn about hypnosis. I have a very specific questions. Is it ok for you to be hypnotized so that you can connect with your subconscious? What I mean is, there is a hypnosis that if you are not sure and are constantly second guessing yourself, you can be hypnotized so that your index finger goes up if your subconscious feels that something is ok for your and your middle finger goes up if your subconscious feels that it is not good for you or you are incorrect in your thinking. The philosophy behind this is that our conscious minds are very critical of ourselves and they have taken in a lot of society, but our subconscious is more pure and connected with what is good for ourselves. I just want to say that mashallah I say my prayers and I do istikhaarah. The reason I am seeing a hypnotherapist is because I have some chronic illness that is aggravated by stress and stress makes you do and think in crazy ways. I am always second guessing myself about what class I should take, am if I doing this right, should I do this. Just small things all day long. I am not going to use this for huge life decisions, just for small things to get me through the day. I let her hypnotize me, but I would still like an Islamic opinion. All I am looking for is a little peace of mind in everyday life and if relying on my subconscious and intuition is ok, please let me know WS A sister in Islam |
| 11/10/2003 | A019: Assalam Alaikum I admit that my knowledge about hypnosis is very poor, but the least I can say in that regard is that Allah gave us the greatest gift by which we know what is right and what is wrong, what benefits us and what harms us, and that is the brain. Not only that He revealed to us the book to guide us knowing what is good for us in the eyes of God, so we are guided by our brain and the divine guidance, other things which make me link with my subconscious, I do not know about that, but to the best of my knowledge, is not Ok because God did not leave us up to that hypnosis! if there is any comfort from hypnosis for any illness, then the doctor is the one to decide on that. I hope I answered your question Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 11/05/2003 Return to top |
Q018: Asalaam Alaikum Wrb, I am interested in pursuing a career in the culinary arts in the United States. Is it haram for a Muslim chef to prepare food that has pork for non-Muslims even though the Muslim chef doesn't eat the food? |
| 11/05/2003 | A018: Assalam Alaikum If you work as a chef and do not own the business, it is OK to serve or cook pork, although it is still Makrooh (disliked). But if you have any control over the menu or in the decision making you should not allow pork. Try to make up your mind and consult with your heart. May Allah guide all of us to do what is right. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 09/24/2003 Return to top |
Q017: Asalaam Alaikum, Why is music haram, or not allowed in the Center if people listen to the same type of music at their homes or at parties they attend? |
| 09/24/2003 | A017: Assalam Alaikum The issue of music is not Haram! As long as the music serves as a legitimate way of bringing relaxation and harmony and others of the human ways of comforts it is ok. But any music or songs that have a bad effect on us socially or spiritually, and might lead to immoral things, such music must be avoided. Playing music in the Mosque is forbidden due to the nature of the Masjid. Masjid is for prayers, meditation, reflection, spiritual and moral uplifting. Music will be a kind of disturbance and confusion for people, at the same time it will be disrespect to God’s house. Let us not forget that was exactly the behavior of the Unbelievers at the time of the Prophet in order to confuse him and the Muslims. Putting a soft music on the Audio system in the social hall down stairs in the occasion of weddings for example is tolerated. Allah knows best. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 09/24/2003 Return to top |
Q016: Asalaam Alaikum Wrb, I live in US for several yrs since I got married and Alhumdulillah I have children and maashallah a good husband. For the past year or so my in-laws are asking us to move back to India with them. My husband is the only son (he has 2 sisters). We asked them to come to US & live with us for a couple of years after my sister-in-law gets married but they refuse. We are not able to move soon. There are many issues involved but the main concern being that of my in-laws' behaviour. My father-in-law is a very short tempered man and keeps criticizing my parents & family. My mother-in-law wants things her own way. My husband doesn't say a word to them because he doesn't want to disobey them. My feelings are hurt and I am very depressed most of the time when I am around them. My husband has great respect for them. I try to be as much patient as I can Alhumdulillah but I fear our relationship with each other (husband & me) as well as with my in-laws might get affected if we move there and I might lose my patience and this will make the situation even worse for all of us. Please let me know a way to handle my problem. Alhumdulillah we are financially taking care of his parents by sending money regularly. We also keep giving charity in their name. The hadith "May his nose be rubbed in dust to those who do not take care of their parents" & other sayings in the Quran about taking care of parents really scares me! I love Allah and my husband so much. I don't want to do anything that will bring us Allah's wrath. Is it alright to stay here in US or should we move back with them? Jazaak Allah bil Khair |
| 09/24/2003 | A016: Assalam Alaikum You and your husband have to decide what is best for you and your children. People travel for the wellbeing of their life and their future. Moving back to India, knowing that will bring you problems, is not the right decision. Your husband can still talk to his parents and explain to them about the benefit for all if he stays here and goes to visit them every year or so. Staying here will allow him to be able to assist them and others financially, since there are relatives there to take care of them, this means it is not necessary for him to move back. There is a way that he can adjust between his parents' demand and staying in US. So what is needed is how to approach his parents and explain to them his view. Personally, I do not see any compelling reason to move back to India. Most of Muslims here have relatives and parents back home, and they manage to maintain good relations with them. May God help you to overcome this difficulty. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 04/18/2003 Return to top |
Q015: Hello, I'm sorry to bother you with this question, but we have a patron interested in the definition of the place name "Basra". We're finding all kinds of geographical, cultural and economic information on the city, but nothing as to the meaning of its name. Unfortunately no one here can make good use of our Arabic-English dictionary, so we thought we'd ask an expert. Can you provide us with this information, or perhaps suggest someone who might be able to help? Thank you, Amy Hartman, Librarian Humanities Department Toledo-Lucas County Public Library 325 Michigan St. Toledo OH 43624 |
| 04/18/2003 | A015: Dear Amy, Thanks for your confidence. "Basra" as the root word means: the fertile land or the land that has red shiny rocks. The meaning of Basra as a city was taken from the Persian language meaning: city that has many roads, or easily connected with many routes, roads and streets so people have easy access to the entire city. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 03/25/2003 Return to top |
Q014: Aslamu Alaikom wa Rahmat Allah wa Barakatoh Dear Brother/Sister: The Muslim community in Kamloops, British Columbia, Canada is in dire need of a mosque, where Muslims practice and learn Islam. A mosque will serve as a place where we can give our children an Islam education. Many of them lack a basic knowledge of Islam. This will help protect and preserve their Islamic identity. As Muslim families in Kamloops, we are concerned that our children will loose their Islamic values. This need has become urgent to counteract the secular education of the public school system. The mosque will not only serve as a place of prayers, but also a place for all Islamic activities. We estimate that the cost of building a mosque is will be about $300,000 (Cdn). The amount of money we have raised so far is not enough to purchase a property. We have recently established a Muslim Association and are also incorporated under BC Society Act: Reg. No. S-43765. We are also awaiting registration with the Federal Government of Canada as a recognized charity, so that we can issue receipts for your donations, which will allow you to receive tax credits. Brothers and Sisters, please assist us to reach our goal and donate generously to help us reach our goal. Allah is the one whom supplies you with money; He multiplies whatever you give. Allah SWT said in the Holy Book: 'The likeness of those who spend their money for Allah's sake, is as the likeness of a grain (of corn), which grows seven ears, every single ear has a hundred grains, and Allah multiplies (increases the reward) for whom He wills, and Allah is All-Sufficient for His creatures needs, All Knower' (2: 261). Don't forget that the charity (Sadaqah) that we put towards building the mosque will generate ongoing good deeds. This charity will be a Sadaqah Jariyah (ongoing charity). Please remember what we spend as a charity for Allah's sake is what remains, as a reward after death, however, what we spend for our worldly pleasures will vanish. As Prophet Mohammed (PBUH) said: "Whoever built a mosque, with the intention of seeking Allah's pleasure, Allah will build for him a similar place in Jannah (Paradise). The prophet (PBUH) stated: 'The Charity does not lessen one's money' and 'Cure your sick people with Sadaqa (i.e. charity)!'. Brothers and Sisters, our need is urgent, please assist us as promptly as is possible. Our beloved prophet said: 'The best charity is what you give during your life while you are in need of it.' Please make your cheques payable to: "The Kamloops Muslim Association and Districts" and mail your donations to the above address. Please forward this letter to the following: any brother/sister you know, any Islamic center/mosque close to you, any email list you have, and your Friday's prayer. May Allah bless you all! JazakAllah The Kamloops Muslim Association and Districts P.O. Box 20004 Stn Sahali Mall Kamloops, V2C 6X1 Canada Email: muslimskamloops@hotmail.com Phone:(250)-314-5269 |
| 03/25/2003 | A014: Dear Brothers and Sisters, Assalamu Alaikum May Allah reward you greatly for your concern about the future of Islam and Muslims. I would like to tell you that what you are saying about your community is the story that all communities have had when they start building mosques. My advise is to send letters to some of the wealthy Muslim countries with blueprints of your mosque with a letter of recommendation from a big organization like ISNA. Try to visit some other communities in Canada and USA. Allah will motivate people to help and give in His cause. Allah be with you and best wishes. Yours; Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 01/28/2003 Return to top |
Q013: Assalamu Alaikum, Dear Imam Sahib, I would like to know if the Islamic Center has some sort of Meat collection for the people who have not preformed Sacrafice(Thabeeha) of an animal for Eid-ul-Azha that is upon us in Feb. What is the best way to give 1/3 portion of your Sacrifice to the needy, when you can not give any meat away. Thank you. |
| 01/28/2003 | A013: Assalamu Alaikum: The best thing to do is to ask one of your relatives back home to do it there on your behalf. Many people there might need it badly. If you do not have relatives there, please let me know and I would be happy to help you in that regard. Yours; Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 05/30/2002 Return to top |
Q012: Assalamu Alaikum, I became a Muslim 10 years ago at the age of 15. Tonight I read some things that have confused me and lowered my iman and I am destressed about it. Inshaallah you can help answer my questions and increase my iman. I ask you because I am ashamed to ask the imam at my masjid. You may publish this question if you think your answer may increase the iman of others, if not please do not publish it. 1. Can you tell me who the hunafa were? 2. I also read the nabi's, salalahu alayhi wasalam, father was named abdullah. If his father died before he was born, and Abdullah means 'slave of Allah', who does his name refer to since he was named before the Messenger of Allah, salalahu alayhi wasalam, was even born? 3. Who was the god the idol worshipers called Allah in the Kabah before Mecca was taken by the Muslims? Thank you for your time, Ibrahim |
| 05/30/2002 | A012: Dear Ibrahim: Assalamu Alaikum: 1. The Hunafa are the people who stayed on the pure faith and associated no one with God. Remember that God in the Quran describes Abraham as Haneefa, meaning that he had a pure faith in God alone. Also some people before the advent of Islam, due to their upright nature, believed in God alone. They were known as Hunafa. Every Muslim, and even every human being, is required to be haneefa in a meaning to believe in no one God. 2. The Prophet`s father, Abdullah, was named by the Prophet`s grandfather Abdul-Muttaleb. The name, as you mentioned, means the servant of God, like every one of us is. The name was given to some people even before the advent of Islam. 3. There was no God before, the only God is Allah. The people at the time of Jahelyiah, or before Islam, adopted many gods but none of them was the true God because the only true one is God, the creator of the worlds. Yours; Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 02/12/2002 Return to top |
Q011: Assalamu Alaikum, I know a Christian who has been searching for the true religion for over a year, because he wasn't sure if Christianity was the right religion. At times, he mentioned he was close to choosing Islam because it made a lot of sense, but something was stopping him. Finally, he left his home to be alone and to find God. After a lot of searching and praying, one night he read the Bible and read some passages that brought tears to his eyes because he felt God's love. The next morning he woke up with a strong feeling in his heart, and he chose Christianity and is strongly convicted to worship Jesus(pbuh). He said the Holy Spirit showed him the truth. After telling me this, I was surprised. Why was he shown another religion when praying to Allah for the true
religion? Why doesn't everyone find Islam after praying, if they are honest in prayer? |
| 02/12/2002 | A011: Dear Sara: Assalamu Alaikum: Islam is the religion in the sight of God. As Muslims we believe that all Prophets (PBUT) were Muslims, in the meaning that they surrendered and believed in God as one God. As you know in the Quran, Jesus, Moses, Mohammed, and the rest of them did worship God. The human choice does not affect the credibility and the truthfulness of the message. How do you then explain why millions of human beings follow no religion! Everyone is free to join any religion he or she likes as the Quran states: "No compulsion in
religion, guidance stands clear from misguidance". That is why the Quran invites people to think and
comprehend things, after all, everyone will be held responsible for his choice and his deeds. |
| 02/06/2002 Return to top |
Q010: Dear Sir, Assalam-o-Alaikum I am a convert to Islam and at present only want to change my middle names to Islamic ones. Presently I am called Patrick Jim Moreland Nelson and I plan to change my name to Patrick Ja'far Moosa Nelson. What I would like to ask is are Ja'far and Moosa appropriate names for middle names? Also is the full name Patrick Ja'far Moosa Nelson a good combination? Best wishes Patrick JM Nelson. |
| 02/06/2002 | A010: Dear Brother: Assalamu Alaikum, Changing your name after becoming a Muslim is not mandatory. If you like your name you have the right to keep it. If you want to change it, it is your own choice. Your choice of Jafar is good. The whole name just sounds fine. May God bless you. Yours; Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 01/13/2002 Return to top |
Q009: Assalamu alaikum. Imam Farooq, Your talk on Sunday moved me to really think about where I am with my Islam and what I need to do to move forward. Sometimes it seems that doing what is right is more difficult than taking the easy way out. Thank you for your wonderful guidance, you have helped me to move in the right direction. I am considering hijab. I wear hijab when I come to the mosque. The small problem is getting myself ready, buying or making the new clothes and learning what the "do's and don't" are of wearing hijab. The big problem is that my husband will have a hard time with it and my Christian parents and family. How can I explain hijab "softly" to them? Thank you for you time. Wasalam |
| 01/13/2002 | A009: Dear Sister: Assalamu Alaikum, I was so pleased to read your message. Hijab is considered a matter of obligation, just like other obligations. The only difference is that many people are not accustomed to wearing it. It is your own decision. It requires courage and determination. Do not concern yourself with what other people might say about you. The main thing is that you are doing what is right and what you believe in. I doubt if there is any husband who does not like to see his wife a chaste and moderate woman doing what she believes in. As some people are free to wear what they like and expose their bodies to others, Muslim women also have the right to be respected when they wear what they like. Why do people look with respect to the devoted Christian sisters and nuns, and not to a woman with Hijab! There are many women who wear Hijab and go wherever they want. It is easy to convince your Christian parents, just tell them, "My Hijab will make me a more open minded person, a good and kind daughter because it will always remind me of Mary, the mother of Jesus (PBUH), and the great Muslim women at the time of the prophet." May Allah bless you and help you to be more determined and please God. Yours; Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 01/08/2002 Return to top |
Q008: Dear Imam, I have been reading about Islam the past 6 months and have great interest of course. I find logic in Islam that seems to be missing in Christianity. I attended Friday prayers last week for the first time. I must admit that I am nervous because I realize that there is so much for me to learn. I am writing in request of any assistance and guidance you may provide me. Any contacts you can give me with classes and Muslim ladies will be so greatly appreciated, as well as any books you may suggest. Thank you for your time regarding this very important matter. I live approx. 1.25 hours from the Islamic Center and have few Muslims near to me. Therefore your assistance is more important than usual. Thank you again. I shall await your reply. Sincerely, T. |
| 01/08/2002 | A008: Dear T.: Assalamu Alaikum, I am so pleased to know that you attended Friday Service last week in the Islamic Center. I am at your service to explain to you what you need to know about Islam, give you the books you need, and answer your questions. Still I do not know where you live, so I can get you acquainted with some Muslims in your city. Please try to call me or give me your phone number. I will be happy to do whatever I can for you. I will be waiting to hear from you. God bless you. Yours; Imam Farooq Abelzahab |
| 11/15/2001 Return to top |
Q007: As Salamu Alaikum Dear Imam Farooq, Is it not true that Allah ta'ala has granted to humanity access to His realms of divine light for us to utilize in the vicegerent capacity to awaken our fellows to the potentiality and beneficence of the subtle realms of light? And should any doubt that such a gift has been granted to us, they may bear witness for themselves the direct experience of supernal light density by opening their senses to the moment after you recite Al-Fatiha when your community of believers responds with "Amen"....You then pause before continuing with The Recitation, and in this moment the density of the divine light is such that one may perceive or feel directly this supernal presence insha'Allah......... Is it, therefore, not appropriate for us to attribute such phenomenon to His Blessings and His Signs? |
| 11/15/2001 | A007: Dear Fellow Muslim: Assalamu Alaikum, May Allah bless you for your insight. It is very true that Allah (SWT) gifted us as His vicegerent with all tools and features needed to act and manifest His Divine will. Therefore you see in the Quran many verses to highly acknowledge those who think things over, and let us not forget that the first Quranic verse was about knowledge, " Iqra". Prayer, without putting in feeling and thinking, becomes nothing but physical exercise. Muslims are to get an access to God`s gate of blessing of watching and seeing God. If they fail to, they at least have to keep in mind that Allah sees them, and that is the state of Ihsan. May God help us to expose ourselves to His unlimited blessings and bounties. Yours, Imam Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 08/20/2001 Return to top |
Q006: Imam, I am having a lot of personal problems, it seems like someone did a spell on me or the guy I was going out with. Since we are having a very hard time, we both are very confused and can't let go of each other but can't stay together either. I want to know how would I break that spell and what do I need to do. Please reply soon. Thank you. |
| 08/20/2001 | A006: Dear Sister: Assalamu Alaikum, What I can say to you in that regard is to depend on Allah, and be certain that if that guy cares about you he will come forward, nothing to stop him, and to relieve yourself from this confusion, read the Quran and make your Prayer. Try to please Allah and be with Him, nothing is going to hurt you at all. If you know that having a meeting with me will be more helpful, let me know. God be with you. Imam: Farooq Aboelzahab |
| 07/31/2001 Return to top |
Q004: Assalamualaikum, I would be very grateful if you can answer a question. Do any of your Islamic scholars know the time when Imam Mahdi will be appearing. (year and place.) Jazakallah |
| 07/31/2001 | A004: Assalamu Alaikum, The answer is no body knows. Imam: A.M. Khattab |
| 07/26/2001 Return to top |
Q003: As-salamualeykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhu wa rizwanuh Dear Imam, My question to you is this: "In the Holy Qur'an 3:55 and 5:117-118 it mentions the word "Mutawwaffiyyke" which denotes death in numerous places of the Holy Qur'an i.e. 2:234, 2:240, 3:193, 4:15, 4:97, 6:61, 7:37, 7:126, 8:50, 10:46, 10:104, 12:101, 13:40, 16:28, 16:32, 16:70, 39:42, 40:67, 40:77, 47:27 and in another ayah 6:61 it denotes sleep. Now when this is like this what does the word denote in ayah 3:55? Does it mean that Hadhrat Isa(as) died? Also I read in Imam Tabarani's interpretation of this word the idea of "Qabdh" can you prove from the Holy Qur'an and Sunnah Saniyya the basis of the idea that Isa(as) did not die even though the word 'Wafat" denotes death in the verse, also prove the usage of the word Qabdh if in fact Mutawwaffiyyke denotes this term." I await your comments Jazakallah for taking the time to consider my question. Wassalam |
| 07/26/2001 | A003: Assalamu Alaikum, Isa (as) died like any human being. There were some miraculous actions taking place at his birth and saving him from the Jews, but this will not take him of the human arena and its nature. Many tafseers of Quran are quoting information from Christian books, so one should utilize his common sense and not to believe in everything written. Quranic text is undebateable but any other book could be right or wrong. Regards. Imam: A.M. Khattab |
| 07/17/2001 Return to top |
Q002: I am a student at Bowling Green State University. I am currently enrolled in an English class - Woman and Islam in literature. I am doing a group project on the different structures of mosques and was wondering what the two pillars meant that are at the one side of the mosque? I would greatly appreciate if you could help me with this. Also, do you give tours? I was wondering if it would be possible to get a tour of your mosque? |
| 07/17/2001 | A002: If you mean by pillars the two minarets, this is Islamic architecture. Before the invention of the loudspeaker, the caller for prayer (the Muathan) used to climb the minaret and call people for prayer. Regarding the tours, they will start in September and you can arrange a tour with the secretary of the Center by phoning 419 874-3500. Imam: A.M. Khattab |
| 07/02/2001 Return to top |
Q001: Assalamu Alaikum Imam, When I read the seerah of our Holy Prophet (saws), it seems to me that he lived in a perpetual state of "tawqa", and his life history shows how he devoted many disciplined hours to meditation and contemplation which made him open to sublime and blessed states of consciousness. Why then would meditation not be an activity proscribed for us as "sunnah"? |
| 07/02/2001 | A001: Assalamu Alaikum, The concept of TAQWA in Arabic means "fear of God" or "self restrain". Applying this to the Prophet's life it means practicing Islam in its totality. Acting according to the rules of Allah out of fear of His punishment or because asking of His mercy. In this respect, meditation was not an end in itself, but was to isolate himself of worldly affairs. If you take this term into account and in its right context, TAQWA is Fard (obligatory) and a must on every believer. God knows best and I wish the inquirer every success and guidance in his life. Imam: A.M. Khattab |